NCDCC Camp Reflections

Where should I start.....

I guess I was disappointed. With someone. A fellow S/NCO. He knew that the camp dates had been shifted 1 week earlier well before the exams even started. But he didn’t tell anyone, not even any of us S/NCOs, until 1 day before the camp itself. By then he had created his own camp schedule without discussing it with any other S/NCO. He didn’t even have the courtesy to call at an appropriate time when he finally did, at 11:45 pm, two nights before the camp.

The year 2 NCOs should have been planning the camp. We all told them they would get to. The way this person just came along with his own schedule and using that instead would certainly have disappointed the year 2 NCOs greatly. That’s not even begging to describe the disappointment of those year 2s who were on the original list of NCOs, who were replaced with his list, again without prior discussion with other S/NCOs.

In fact the right to select the year 2 NCOs is that of the year 2 I/Cs. He was year 1 I/C and thus could not possibly have spent as much time with the year 2s as the year 2 I/Cs to properly get to know the year 2s.

Despite all this and the S/NCOs frank expression of our upset, he didn’t bother with an apology nor an explanation to the year 2 NCOs. Even the way he carried himself at our meetings, the tone with which he spoke in and the diction which he used, might have suggested a disregard for other people’s feelings.

Maybe that was the reason why we fell out as friends two and a half years ago.

Because he couldn’t care less about other people’s thoughts, other people’s opinions, other people’s feelings.

I did consider writing this addressed straight to him, with “you” instead of “him” being the word of choice in the text. But I didn’t, because I figured that it wouldn’t matter anymore anyway. Even if he bothered to read it, he’d just do what he did before, which is to print the whole thing out, find me in class, and tell me that he’s right and I’m wrong.

I’ve talked to him before, and we talked about how we felt about each other’s way of interacting with other people. When it got to talking about him, I’ve always told him about how many other people feel that he goes about stepping on everyone’s toes, and while what goes around might be somewhat exaggerated, I’m not inclined to believe that it is all untruths.

Right now I’ve already said everything I wanted to say about that to him. There’s nothing really left to say anymore. I don’t know whether he actually took me seriously and actually considered some of the viewpoints that were brought up. But anyway, it feels like now is the appropriate time for me to just wish him all the best in life, and walk out of his.